***warning: dont tell me not to be negative. We are all allowed our crazy negative moments...***
Less than a year ago I hardly gave a passing thought to being single. I'd happily hang out with my couple-buddies, dream about random crazy adventures in the future that I hoped to embark on and endlessly watch horror films.Now. Well now I want to punch any couple I see in the face, dream about being a crazy cat lady and sob hysterically over hours of rom- coms.
What.the.hec.happened.
I can quite safely say: there are noooo prospectives. Nada. Online guy (#3) has changed his online profile to indicate that he despises certain types of women. That would appear to be me he's describing. Ok so I never replied to him. My bad. Whatevs. Boo freaking hoo. I was on holiday for God's sake?!
Number 2. Totes is not interested in me. Why on earth did I ever think someone like him would be interested in someone like me?! I wont bore you with the details but lets just say I stood side by side with someone he used to be interested in and I am like two thousand stone throws away from her. Yes yes I shouldnt compare etc etc. But you know what? Im human!!! And I'm having a fat day! Ok well maybe prospective 2 also turned out to be a little too Edward Cullen for my liking. Think emo.Not bloodsucker.
Oh yeah and my parents. LOVE them. So much love. Apparently theres a doctor, an investment banker and some sort of engineer in the pipeline for me. Do I care? NO!!! Same old same old. Parents talk about mystery men and how theyve become best buddies with mystery mens' families. Will i get to meet any of these wonderful blokes? Of course I wont! This is a 9 year old pattern. Why, despite avid attempts of intervention from myself and my siblings, would this bizarre approach to (failing to) introduce me to guys, change?
O and bless my dear dear sister. This time Im being positive. Sort of. She signed me up to a singles event. Yes. I am now so socially incompetant that the only way for there to be a hope in hell of me meeting someone is to fork out 30 quid. Maybe Ill start buying myself some friends. Maybe Ill get a mail-order husband. Can you get those? No problem if he's Thai, I'm not so backward that I can only marry from my own village. As long as he's vaguely brown that's totes cool.
I was exposed to 30/40 single guys in one go. Im fairly certain that's more than I've ever encountered in my lifetime. I didnt take to any of the guys. They didnt take to me. I got more girls numbers (3) than guys (0).Worked out pretty well I reckon!!
This marriage stuff is hard. Why is no else around me finding it this hard?
Everyone has to rant - it's only natural, and cathartic - I hope it helped to get it off your chest :)
ReplyDeleteMost people are finding it hard, but we all have to put on a brave face so we can function and interact with everyone normally. I feel like the longer I'm single, the harder it is not to be obsessive in 'the search' - but it's all a test. Once you bring up the subject amongst your single friends/acquaintances, you can have a good old rant and laugh about it - sisters' solidarity!
You never know what might come out of these events, or other things - in the recent past, people I've met have randomly tried to introduce me to prospectives. God help us all in our search inshaAllah x
Thank you for your support! So much easier to reflect now that I feel less ranty!! Yes I reckon keeping yer chin up and still making an effort to go to events is the best advice :) Afterall if I did nothing then my outcome is much morr likely to be...nothing!
DeleteOh don't apologise for a rant, everyone needs to have a rant once in a while and don't give up hope I;m sure Mr. Right is out there for you InshAllah, you just have to pass all the Mr. Wrongs before you can meet him ;)
ReplyDelete-Keep faith and I'm keen to see what happens next x
Thank you!! I think my standards have shifted from mr right to mr just-good-enough!! I think he might be a more realistic option!
DeleteDe-lurking just to say you're not alone. It's super hard... I've personally gone through so many disappointing 'prospects' that I've reached the point of feeling being single would just be simpler; no heartbreak (or ego-break!).
ReplyDeleteBut as cynical as I tend to get, I try not to get *too* bitter (and I do get bitter!!). Whatever happens, there is much awesomeness in singledom. A lot of suckiness (mainly from social pressure, personally), true, but a lot to be thankful for.. (For one thing, marriage seems really really hard..)
Jokes aside, may we all get what's best for us in sha Allah =)
Thank you and yes so right- singledom is the city to be in! I just need to bear in mind that I might emigrate to coupledom but that it will be a voluntary movr and not forced migration!!
ReplyDeleteKeep your chin up! Coming from a seasoned singleton, I look at those around me and always remind myself that it could be a lot worse. Keep the faith, and all will work out.
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